THE THREE C’S

Consideration. Consistency. Care.

I may not be able to tell you he’s the right one, but I can tell you if he’s the wrong one.

Consideration, consistency, and care are my non-negotiable traits when dating. I love to be considered, because it feels so good to be thought of.

While writing this, I could not help but wonder the exact definition of consideration. By a simple Google AI look up, by definition, it means: careful not to cause inconvenience or hurt to others. ‘Attentive’ and ‘Thoughtful’ are similar words. Meaning, they open doors for you, and when you’re walking down the street, they move you to their other side because chivalry ain’t dead, for reals. When they talk to you, they consider your perspective and how their actions may make you feel. They make time for you, with you.

Consistency is the big C word that I think people care about the most. Oftentimes, I think we confuse consistency with overbearing, or too much access too soon. I like to think of consistency as going to the gym. When you start going, you may or may not have a plan, but you start to feel different, lose a few pounds, and develop a routine perfect for you. However, due to life, you may occasionally slip up and skip a day or two.

Does that mean you no longer like the gym? Are the results made, not still made, and intact? The answer is obviously no.

We live in a society where we have access to so much from the moment we wake up until we close our eyes. It is truly too much. You should not have the person you are dating's location. The moment one person stops sharing, issues arise. (Trust me, I have been there, unfortunately.) Just don’t share it.  

Here is a common experience: the person who has been texting you ‘good morning’ consistently for 10 days straight forgets to text you on the 11th day, and you panic. It is typically not the ‘I hope they are okay’ panic, but instead it is the ‘if they are not texting me, they must be texting someone else’ panic. However, what if they woke up with a terrible headache or got laid off? Or even better, they woke up late and now their entire day is fucked. So yes, they did forget to text you. But does that mean they need to get cut off? Does that mean they do not like you? (I hope you do not think that is always the case.) Again, doing too much too soon.

Now I want to make this clear: only if the consistency outweighs the inconsistency, keep entertaining them and see where things go, and might I add, never put all your eggs in one basket. I’m sorry, but it’s true, and oftentimes, you are not the only egg in their basket unless proven and told otherwise.  The moral of the story is that immediate consistency should not equal immediate access. Consistency is a pattern, and patterns take time. No one needs 24/7  access to someone they just met. Like that’s insane, go read a book.

My favorite C word of the 3 mentioned at the beginning of this article is ‘care’. To the men out there who are interested in me, please note to handle me with care. According to Google AI, this means to treat something gently and cautiously to prevent damage, often used for fragile items. The core definition is to exercise serious attention, concern, and protection for someone or something to avoid risk or harm.

I have personally been in situations with men where I am treated like straight garbage. So this is how I know this is the one that matters most to me, and I think it should to you as well. Being handled with care also lets you know he has a soft side, which is needed. You want to know you are in great hands; you should be able to call him, ‘All State’.  You should feel safe and know that if something goes left, the person you are interested in or dating cares for you. They should care for you as they care for a friend or a sibling. Do you get me? You want to know they are kind-hearted, have emotional awareness, and care about you. At best, hopefully, the person you are concerned about is a decent human being. Truthfully, caring about someone is a bare minimum requirement; however, it is common for people to care about things they treat poorly. Which is another tip for you, watch how people tend to the things they care about, their home, their families, etc., because it is how they will treat you, if they ‘care’ about you.

Conclusion here, consideration, consistency, and handling with care are what I look for in a person I am seeing or getting to know. If he can not provide the 3 C’s, drop ‘em.  I personally think these are bare minimum expectations. I hope this helps you with your 2026 dating season. I hope this inspires you to establish boundaries and a checklist… and check it twice, especially if the person you are seeing is so fine, you might unintentionally let a few things slide one too many times. (🤣😭) Most importantly, again, try not to do too much too soon. I know all about that, after all, I am an ever loving pisces.

With nothing but love always,

Siri Sonora